Your child is probably learning nothing by doing everything
It’s very natural for parents today to feel pressurised into enrolling their children in a lot of activities. This pressure has been a part of the society for so long that over time, parents plan these extra classes right from primary school.
There are two main reasons why parents do this:
- Their children might be missing out on what other children are learning.
- Parents want their children to have access to opportunities that they didn’t have as children.
Thus, in the process of building a bright future, a lot of parents include various extra-curricular activities to build their child’s resume from a young age.
However, with so many extra classes lined up, parents have no idea about the pressure and stress that their children go through. Most children love to learn something new and would seem excited at first. As parents, we should be able to guide them and make sure that they have a sound mind and heart amidst all they become a part of.
According to Diane Ehrensaft, Ph.D., a developmental and clinical psychologist, “Creativity is making something out of nothing and that takes time to happen.” Children who get involved in too many things don’t have the room for creativity in their minds.
Here are a few things you can do to help your child find their passion and grow holistically:
– It is always better to look for activities that build a strong foundation for your child. For example, an English writing class, a holistic math class, a music class etc. will help your child in future in a lot of ways.
– Ensure that your child gets physical exercise every day. This does not necessarily have to be in the form of sports coaching, but playing interesting games with their friends will refresh them. After all, that’s how you spent your time after school too, isn’t it?
– Give your child an hour or two everyday to do something they love. This can include reading, painting, music etc. This way, they will become creative and they will also learn how to make use of their free time to be productive. This is a very important skill to imbibe.
– Get in touch with your child’s teachers to understand what is best for your child. These teachers see what your child does all through the day and will know exactly where to nurture their interest. Even Bill Gates attributes his success to the fact that his school librarian helped him nurture his love for reading by sharing good books with him. Today, he reads around fifty books in a year.
– Ensure that your child has the freedom to give you their inputs as well while you plan extra classes for them. For example, if you want your child to learn karate but they are more interested in learning to play the flute, find a balance between the two.
– Ask your children for feedback on their classes. Most children would not have the courage to voice their dislike for a certain class. This fear of letting you down will create unnecessary stress in them.
– Most importantly, teach your child to relax.
Family-time and good rest is important for your child in their developing years. Granted that it’s a tough competitive world for them to grow up in, but the whole point of going for extra classes is to learn something. Too many responsibilities can build up stress in them and hamper their learning process throughout their lives.