Indian mothers are not all about daily soaps and “did you eat?”, while Indian fathers are not all about news channels and cricket matches. Some may strongly disagree with this statement but the fact is that an Indian parent is a lot more than this.
Career: What career they think is “best” for their children
Social gatherings: How important it is to flaunt at a wedding happening months down the line
Marriage: How their child is too young to go on a solo vacation but old enough to get married!
The truth is that the above doesn’t matter much. What’s more important is, if what they want for their child is right or not. The definition of “this is right for my child” varies from parent to parent. But is this “right” really right for the child?
Again, the definition of “happy” varies. And I won’t say wishing for a successful career is wrong. Neither is it termed as setting up a very high expectation. Of course, any parent would want their kids to lead a comfortable life.
But let’s look closely at the various scenarios around us-
Does only an engineering/doctorate degree bring happiness?
Is an artistic career looked down upon just because of the perception that it does not pay well?
Has “wealth over health” overpowered our minds?
These questions are pretty philosophical and debatable.
India is a rich country, in terms of knowledge, talent, religion, and population. This richness will only enhance as long as the future of India is happy, healthy, and properly educated.
What should parents do?
Keep the future happy: By letting them make decisions and become independent.
Keep them healthy: By giving them ample chance and exposure to achieve what they require and want.
Give them the opportunity: To fall in love with what they do and what they learn.
More importantly, prepare them to make complex decisions in the future. After all, isn’t it your obligation as parents to ensure that your child evolves into an independent individual capable of much more than just following instructions?
Why not begin with math? After all, math is said to be the universal language and promotes logical and creative thinking.
This blog summarises Indian parents, and how they often behave with their children. It talks about some of their common habits, mistakes, and what they can do alternatively. As a parent, it is your responsibility to make sure that your child develops socially, emotionally, responsibly, and intellectually.
Make sure you pay careful attention and make the right decisions, be conscious of the things you do in front of them. Young minds are very impressionable, set a great example for them so they find the perfect role model in you.
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What are some mistakes Indian parents make?
Indian Parents commonly make these mistakes:
Screentime over playgrounds
Succumbing to tantrums
Not preparing them to deal with failure
Comparing with siblings or other children
Setting examples by living on E.M.I schemes
Scolding and screaming instead of explaining
Always providing choices
Not being patient
Lying in front of them
Involving them in grown-up conversations too early
Why are Indian parents so strict?
Indian parents are often very fearful and insecure. They experienced similar treatment from their parents and so they often do the same without taking into account the change in times.
They are mainly worried about:
Their child getting distracted from studies and falling into 'bad habits'.
They are afraid of drug use.
They are worried if the child gets romantically involved, he/she will not focus on academics.
They feel the need to exercise control believing it is in the best interest of their child.