We live in a very competitive world today. Millennials in the corporate field are vying for top positions, college graduates are working hard to bag great jobs and students are usually preparing for some exam or the other. In a competitive atmosphere like this, parents often worry about the future of their young children and do everything in their power to secure it. However, in the pursuit of giving your children the best, are you pushing them too far?
As a parent it is important to set the right expectations for your child because every child is unique. Setting extremely low expectations for your child can make them lazy and uninterested. Extremely high expectations can cause unnecessary stress in them. It’s important to find the balance between the two so that your child remains motivated and grows up to be an achiever.
Here are a few ways to set expectations right.
Don’t pressurize your child to be a topper always
We can’t say this enough- school marks and grades are not everything in life. While it’s good to let your child know the importance of scores, it is not fair to expect them to continuously top their class in math or any other subject. What’s more important is to make sure that their foundation in math is strong so that they can build on it and do well consistently.
Don’t do “everything” for your child
Today, most parents work hard to give their child a comfortable life. Of course this is something they’ll be ever grateful for. However, in the process, most children are kept away from regular chores like, setting the table before a meal, folding their own clothes, making their own bed etc. These are tasks that every individual should grow up doing. If you don’t assign you child small duties from their childhood, they can find it hard to break down bigger tasks in future. Moreover, they can become very dependent and expect you to have the solution to every problem in their lives.
At Cuemath, we encourage students to find solutions to problems on their own. This kind of independence and responsibility helps them come up with interesting and better methods to reach the solutions.
Your child is not you
If you were good at math, it does not mean that your child should be pushed to perform. Every child is unique and it’s important to acknowledge this. Some children are good at academics while some ace in sports. Give your child the freedom to explore what they like and support them. Encourage them to do their best in whatever field they choose. This is where good decision-making skills matter. If your child has the passion and confidence to pursue something they love, they will definitely be successful. Once they grow up and look back, they will see nothing but their biggest fans in you.
Teach them to set their own goals
This is perhaps a very important lesson. Teach your child to set a plan for themselves. Help them differentiate between short term and long term goals. This way, you are making them independent and helping them build excellent planning skills. In fact, this will help them become very productive while they study. A well planned day and a well organized individual always go together.
It is important to keep in mind that most children grow up with their parents as role models. So, it is your responsibility to guide your child in the right way, but not force them into anything. Trust their decisions and you will be their best friends throughout their lives.