6 Simple Tips to Build Self-Esteem and Confidence your Child


20 November 2020

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Is your child suffering from low self-esteem?

Does he/she directly or indirectly tell you that he/she is not as good as the other children?

Low self-esteem and confidence can hamper your child's performance in academics as well as in other walks of life.

Self-confidence has been shown to be a much better predictor of an individual’s achievements than any other non-cognitive factor.

Some studies have also explored the relationship between students’ belief in their own abilities and their academic performance.

For example, If a child thinks she’s good at math, she is more likely to perform well in the subject.

There are subtle but significant ways in which parents can help their children to build their self-esteem from a very young age.

In this article, you will go through some of them, and following them will give you a good chance of building up your child's confidence.

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Ways to increase self-confidence in your child

1. Empower Them With Choices:

Giving children choices, within a reasonable set of options, encourages independent thinking.

Always try to include your child in decisions by preselecting options and letting them decide which works better.

They will feel a sense of responsibility and confidence as they are making their own choices.

2. Give Them Responsibilities:

At every age, from infancy onwards, there are things for kids to learn.

From holding their own cup to picking up toys to helping with laundry and other household duties.

Making a child responsible for specific activities around the house builds their confidence.

They will feel that you acknowledge their contribution to the home and value their opinions.

Build self esteem: Child washing dishes doing household work

3. Offer Praise Publically When Required

There is an old adage that the way you talk about your children is the way the world talks about them.

Smart parents praise in public and criticize in private. It also boosts the child’s confidence to know that you have their back.

This will make them feel that they have done something good and there is someone who acknowledges their achievements.

4. Consider Your Compliments Carefully

In an attempt to encourage, parents can get carried away and offer praise too freely. Showering hollow compliments can actually have an adverse impact.

Instead of proclaiming “Genius!” every time when your child says two-plus-two-is-four, focus on their effort and compliment them for the process, “I like that you’re practicing addition even while playing.”

Kids can sometimes figure out the difference between hollow and genuine compliments.

5. Don’t Over-Protect Your Kid

Parents have a natural tendency to protect the child from ever getting hurt or making mistakes.

But intervening to rescue your child from any and every situation doesn’t help. Allow them the opportunity to overcome adversities.

You will not be there to protect them every time in every situation. It is important that you make them self-responsible so that they can take care of themselves when the time comes.

girl hugging mom

6. Focus On Your child's Strengths

Each child is unique and has something that they are good at.

Pay attention to what your child enjoys and provide them opportunities to develop those skills.

Gone are the days where you only have two-three careers that you have to choose to succeed. Now, there is a rewarding career for almost all skills.

For children to feel good about themselves and succeed, their strengths need to be nurtured and honed.

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Building a child’s self-esteem can have a lasting impact on how they are able to go forth in all aspects of life, not just academia.

If our children believe in themselves, they are more likely to accomplish goals and achieve great things.

You need to start incorporating some changes in your as well as your child's life to get their self-confidence up.

If you follow the tips given in this article regularly, you will gradually start seeing positive changes.

If you do see the changes, make sure to tell us about them on Twitter.

Best of Luck!

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Frequently Asked Questions (FAQs)

How to increase a child's self-confidence?

  • Paste motivational quotes and posters in their room
  • Talk to them more often about their school, friends, etc.
  • Let them pursue their interests
  • Don't compare them with other children
  • Praise them and give compliments on their achievements
  • Make them part of small household activities

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